What if I want a cuckolding relationship and FLR - how do I choose a membership?
If you would like a cuckolding relationship that includes aspects of other dynamics (you choose these on your questionnaire) such as FLR, chastity, D/s, humiliation, etc then choose the LCR program. In a LCR she has other sexual partners and you do not.
If you would like a female-led relationship where she does not have other sexual partners then choose the FLR program.
How many dates will I have and how often?
We do not guarantee any dates in the Venus Connections program nor do we estimate how often someone can anticipate having dates. Not everyone is able to be matched and often it just depends on how much a member has to offer in a relationship, how narrow or broad their criteria is, and if there is or is not someone else in the program who is looking for the same thing as them. Patience and having realistic expectations is crucial in the Venus Connections Program.
Do you have members in Canada? Do you have members in the UK? Worldwide?
At present most of our members are in the United States, with some additional members in Canada, some in the UK, and a few from other countries around the world. Your best chances for a match are if you live in the US.
Do you match people based on preferences for body type or income?
Members need to fill out a questionnaire when they join the program and then at least once yearly after that. We use a data system to match the answers on the questionnaires between members.
Some of the significant data points that we use to make matches for members are age, location, partners with or without children, political leanings, smoking/drug use, and each of the various kink dynamics listed on the questionnaire. It is important to note that we are not making matches based on income, body type/height, or religious affiliation.
How would someone be removed from the program?
There are some things that could lead to a member being removed from the program. Here are some examples:
Being under the age of 21
Looking for a type of relationship that conflicts with a loving cuckolding or FLR relationship ie. findom, abuse etc
Lying, dishonesty, or misleading information on your questionnaire, in your interview, or with a match
Refusing to complete the educational program
You are already in a relationship when you sign up for the program (you are not single)
No-show for your interview or virtual date
Cancelling a virtual date with less than 48 hours notice
General continued portrayal of incompetency, tardiness, disorganization, poor life skills, combative or offensive character
Violating our Terms of Service
I am currently in a relationship. Can I still join your service?
No. Venus Connections is only for single men and single women who are not in a relationship. This service is for singles who are looking for their life partner. At this time we do not accept poly singles or couples however that may change if there is enough interest in polyamory.
Can I find a woman who is into a specific kink like Queen of Spades, breeding, full sexual denial?
Many of the women in our program have no previous experience (or very little) with cuckolding or FLR relationships. They are drawn to the idea of this kind of relationship because they feel it really suits who they are. Unlike a lot of the men who are drawn to the idea of this from porn and already know what turns them on, the women likely do not know what "kinky" aspects of a cuckolding relationship (including interracial) that they want now and also don't know what they would like in the future. It takes time and experience to learn what you like and what you don't like. Therefore it is best to not approach this with a list of "must have's" and instead be openminded to this being a journey of exploration with your partner.
Is Venus Connections right for me?
If you are seeking a loving cuckolding relationship or monogamous female-led relationship with a life partner then this service is absolutely for you. People hire specialists such as financial advisors and personal trainers to handle so many aspects of their lives, so why not use a professional to help you find someone special?
How many women are in the Venus Connections Program?
This is a question we get asked often. On kink dating sites and Fetlife groups it seems like there are way more men seeking a cuckolding relationship than there are women. Does that reflect actual statistics or are the women just not there because the environment has been hostile for them? A gender imbalance in the cuckolding dating world certainly is a chronic problem, and Venus Connections is no exception.
We believe that there are many women who would love a cuckolding or FLR relationship but don’t know that the option exists. That’s why Venus started blogging 7 years ago and has been reaching millions with her podcast as well – to reach women and let them know that this beautiful relationship is a viable option.
We also believe that up until now, the negative environment that single women have endured online has been a huge deterrent for them to want to try to find someone. In fact, the single women who we have contacted online have expressed relief to learn that this is finally available to them and they joined right away.
With that being said, we do anticipate the ratio of women to men to mirror what research has showed in the United States. Dr. Justin Lehmiller is the author of “Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life,”. Dr. Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and found that58% of menand abouta third of womenhad fantasized about cuckolding, with men fantasizing about it much more often than women.
There are women who are interested in cuckolding but who need to learn about it first and have a safe and private place online to be able to find a partner for a loving cuckolding relationship – that’s what we work towards here.
I'm worried about my personal information. Is this site safe?
Venus has had to worry about her personal information being released to the public for years. Although she's not worried about being embarrassed if friends or family know about her relationship interests, she does however have to be seriously concerned about the very real threat women face - being stalked and killed. For this reason she takes privacy very seriously and has always invested in the highest level firewall and security for this site.
We do understand that privacy and discretion is important to many of you so we offer the VIP Ultimate Discreet membership. With that membership none of the personal information is entered into our computer system (it's recorded by hand on a paper record) so you don't have to worry about website hacks or data breaches.
What is the Dating Registry?
The registry is our private list of candidates who are looking for a long term loving cuckolding relationship. It is private and not available for viewing by members or by the public. We do not share photos or personal information of our members.
Can I pause my membership?
Yes you can pause your membership for a maximum of 3 months. At the end of the three months you must email us to reactivate your membership or your membership will be automatically cancelled.
Do I have to provide my personal information or photos of myself?
We do require your personal information and a photo of yourself. These are strictly for us to use to get to know you and make more personalized matches for you. At no time do we ever share your information publicly or with other members. If you are not comfortable sharing this information with us then this is not the program for you.
What if I don't want to do the 3 week educational courses?
The educational courses are mandatory for all members and must be completed within the first 3 weeks of entering the program.
Can I find someone local to my city?
Finding love is never easy. Finding love within a cuckolding or FLR relationship is also not an easy task but we make connecting easier here at Venus Connections. Members who are open to people outside of their city or town have much better chances of finding a match. Members who limit their matches to only those who may be located nearby, see fewer or no opportunities for matches.
All members are expected to be willing to date long distance (and have the means for travel) at least initially, if required. Members are responsible for costs associated with traveling to meet their new partner in person, if required.
Am I guaranteed to meet my life partner on here?
Although we work hard to make meaningful matches on Venus Connections, we cannot guarantee matches and there is no guarantee that you will find love.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes you can cancel your membership anytime but the membership fee is non-refundable. If you cancel and then change your mind you will need to purchase a new membership.
You can put your membership on hold for a maximum of 3 months. At the end of the three months you must email us to reactivate your membership or your membership will be automatically cancelled.
I have many cuckolding fantasies that I want to have fulfilled. Is this the right place for me?
Here at Venus Connections we believe the heavy emphasis should be on initial relationship building and lighter on the fantasies. After all, it's the loving relationship which makes the cuckolding part so special and meaningful. All members should be willing to focus on learning about their potential partners as a person and not as a means to fulfill a list of fantasies.
Do I have to have experience with cuckolding relationships to be a member?
Although experience is definitely an asset, it is not required. We provide education courses on loving cuckolding relationships so you can get a realistic concept of loving cuckolding relationships and dating in the LCR lifestyle.
What are virtual dates?
Once you are matched with someone who we think might be an ideal partner for you, you will receive an email with instructions about your virtual date. We use a simple online audio/video program for you to have a 30 minute conversation with your match. You must be on time, presentable, polite, and use both your audio and video. Virtual dates are "blind dates" meaning you won't know what your date looks like prior, which we think makes it more fun and exciting!
Can I get a refund?
As per our Terms and Conditions that members must agree to when they purchase their membership, there are no refunds for membership fees.
What if I change my mind about wanting a cuckolding or FLR relationship?
If you are hesitant or not entirely sure if a loving cuckolding or FLR relationship is right for you, DO NOT join the Venus Connections program. All members must be entirely committed to the process and to finding a loving cuckolding or FLR relationship. Backing out of an interview or virtual date due to fear or trepidation is not acceptable behaviour and will result in your dismissal from the program. There are no refunds for membership fees.
Do women get thoroughly screened as well as the men?
Absolutely. The women go through the same careful scrutiny to ensure they don't have ulterior motives and are genuine and sincere about wanting a loving cuckolding or FLR relationship. If we decide that the candidate is not a good fit for our program we will cancel their membership.
How long does it take to get started?
How long it takes to get started and potentially get matches depends on which membership you choose. The intake time for Basic Members is approximately 4 to 6 weeks. The intake time for VIP Members can be just a few days from sign up.
I'm worried about privacy - I can use a fake name right?
No. All of the information you provide, including your name, must be truthful. If you are dishonest or lie about anything on your questionnaire, in your interview, or with a match, you will be removed from the program.
Do I have to be wealthy to get a date in the Venus Connections program?
Dating in the cuckolding or FLR lifestyle is very similar to regular vanilla dating. It is a very competitive dating world for single men and they need to work hard to get results. The more you have to offer in a relationship (established career, attractiveness, sense of personal style, personality, relationship experience, a fit body etc.) the more you stand out from the rest. Since most of the women in the program are ages 30 and up, they tend to look for someone who is advanced in their career and have achieved many of their life goals. Nearly all of the women have their own successful careers and are looking for the same in a partner. If you are unemployed, have a low income job, don't put effort into appearance or style, or live with family or roommates it makes it harder for you to find a date in the vanilla dating world, and in this matchmaking service as well.
What are the ages of the women in the program?
Most of the women in the program are in their 30's and 40's. The ages mainly range from late 20's to mid 50's. The men however range from 21 to late 70's. Most of the women are currently looking for men who range in age from 30 to 50's, but this fluctuates.
Can I date outside of the program as well as be a member of Venus Connections?
Yes! It's hard to find your life partner so we encourage you to pursue all options you have available. You can continue to look for a partner outside of this program however you must email us to pause your membership as soon as you start dating someone or focusing your time and attention on someone outside of our program.